Coaching Yourself During This Major Life Change

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Whether you are anticipating the empty nest or are in the empty nest, these questions will come up for you:

Many questions of wonderment and pain are normal in this major life change. When you hear yourself ask: WHAT SHOULD I DO...First notice what you have been doing when that situation occurs.

Write What You Have Been Doing.

Then write using your opposite writing hand. If you are right handed, now use your left and write with it saying...if I did something new next time in that situation, I would ___________.

Example: Write the following:  Every time my son says stop nagging me and asking me so many questions about my homework and when I will be home, I get really mad and tell him to stop yelling at me.

Now with my opposite hand, write; when my son yells at me for nagging him and asking too many questions, I could say___________.

See what you discover about other ways you are comfortable and challenged to try new behaviors.  There is no right way when those questions of WHAT SHOULD I DO WHEN___________.

Be your own adviser through this writing exercise and see what comes out on the paper.  Let yourself branch out!

Take care,
Natalie

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